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Are you 1st Lady material?
Last night following FLOTUS Michele Obama’s DNC speech the social media waves were filled with comments from men that were looking for their Michele and women looking for their Barack. There were a few reflective statuses where people were actually striving to be a better person to their current/ future mate.
So of course the next discussion that sparked was: Are you First Lady or Commander in Chief ready?
This really had me thinking! We are all in different places and working towards different things but with where you are right now in this moment as you read this blog post, are you complimentary to what you are asking for in a mate?
While I am in a rebuilding stage my skills, work ethic and relationship morals are all still in tack for the man that I am looking and praying for. I definitely have had conversations were afterwards I am wondering where this person came up with these ridiculous requirements, when they can’t even live up to them.
My question to you is what are you looking for in a mate, is it realistic and do you have those qualities in yourself?
I think that the whole ‘let me upgrade you’ mantra gives the assumption that it is ok to not provide a close parallel to your significant other, that you will somehow be better based on them being great. *News Flash* you can’t complain that a woman is too independent and controlling when you can’t be a provider and lead her anywhere other than off the side of a mountain. The same is true for women; you can’t complain that you don’t have a good man when you have no domestic qualities.
In my life as a single woman there is a balance I grind all day working to grow and stabilize being a business woman but I also have that domestic 1950’s housewife inside of me. This is the thing, when I am just dating that domestic stuff doesn’t come out that often because I don’t believe every man needs to be treated like my man! That is one of the problems you can’t get all the benefits of an exclusive relationship when you can’t do something as basic as take out my trash. Yet there are people sleeping with a dude after a date to Chick-Fil-A and then getting up in the morning cooking breakfast and running a bubble bath. It’s a two way street over here, baby! I’m not saying we need to talk marriage on the first date (I will be the one not returning calls in that case) but I am saying that from me you will get what you give!
And finally my last gripe J………quit thinking that your sex organs somehow equate to a Master’s degree! If asked what you have to offer and your answer is, ME, translation = not a damn thing! Grow up and gain the skills to compete on an equal level with the person you are looking to be in a relationship with.
**Also seen at ambitionmag.org
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Comment by Dana on September 10, 2012 at 2:42pm -
Waiting for mine also...
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Comment by Omesha Frazier on September 8, 2012 at 3:50pm -
Inspirational.... awaiting for My Barack...
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Comment by LeKeisha Nicole on September 8, 2012 at 10:05am -
Karin the strength and potential is exactly what I was thinking about when writing this post. I am definitely still looking or waiting for him to come but by no means am I looking for someone decades further than me. I have the desire to grow to greatness with someone. I am not going to be idle while waiting but I definitely want someone to grow with me.
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Comment by Karin Coger on September 8, 2012 at 10:01am -
Correction: Michelle's salary was $273,618 when she was at the hospital and Barack's salary was $157,082 from the United States Senate.
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Comment by Karin Coger on September 8, 2012 at 9:29am
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Great post LeKeisha!!! I think I'm 1st Lady Material. I'm just looking for my Barack Obama. One thing that I love about the Obama story is that Michelle was Michelle BEFORE Barack. She was working at the law firm while he was a intern and still in law school. (I'm a lawyer by the way so I can REALLY appreciate this.) She saw the potential in her and most importantly, HE was not initimadated by her. While he was working for grass root organizations and in politics, Michelle held the family down. When Michelle left her employment at the University of Chicago Medical Center, she was making over $300k. The Obamas are a partnership and a team. They work together. They upgrade each other. That's what I am looking for in my potential relationship. I often say that I'm a strong woman so I need someone stronger than me. Strong is subjective and it does not necessarily equate being more accomplished or making more money. Strong is being someone who can be an individual and a partner in a relationship with me.
Karin Y. Coger
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Comment by Rachelle McMillan on September 6, 2012 at 8:44am -
I love it! I was just reflecting on something similar this morning...How can you expect someone else to give you what you have not given yourself? That goes for all areas of your life, not just relationships. Good job!
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Comment by Natalia Bolding on September 5, 2012 at 11:56pm -
Beautiful Post
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Comment by MRS. DEBORAH R. MARTIN-MINTON on September 5, 2012 at 6:23pm -
WHAT A BEAUTIFUL POST.....I LOVE IT:):)
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Comment by LeKeisha Nicole on September 5, 2012 at 6:15pm
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Thank you ladies!
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Comment by BossChicks Staff on September 5, 2012 at 5:40pm -
loved everything about this post.. thanks LeKeisha.. just shared it on the home page
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