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Comment by Nikiyi Kelly ((Blogger)) on July 24, 2012 at 3:20am

@Arleen your right & I haven't claimed a relationship with a boyfriend in awhile in awhile so I'm cool with being alone, I do it everyday. However,the problems come when their intentions are hidden. Some men present themselves as a lie so that you can play yourself..Rude Awakening for you while he's around the corner laughing because you played yourself..smh

Comment by arleen pinkston on July 24, 2012 at 2:42am

We have all settled at some point. But, at this point in my life im not doing that anymore. I would rather be single then settle for a man i know is not the one. Alot of women cause they dont want to be alone. Thats why men treat women like they do. But, i have too much to offer to give my best to somebody who doesnt deserve it.

Comment by Nikiyi Kelly ((Blogger)) on July 24, 2012 at 1:58am

@Meiqua thanks 4 sharing & understanding but one thing is for sure, I aquired the lesson I needed to learn from the situation and for that I'm thankful because now I know if I were to ever see him...to take-off running & don't look back!I am staying in my lane & if I see him coming I am changing directions..#LESSON LEARNED (some men can be so reckless in their behavior that before you even realize it he has left you with pain almost unbearable for a sistah to bounce back from)..

Comment by Meiqua Shepherd on July 23, 2012 at 9:17pm

@Nikiyi: OH how I feel your pain.. going through the same thing right now!!! Lesson learned for sure!!! 

Comment by Nikiyi Kelly ((Blogger)) on July 23, 2012 at 7:18pm

Excellent article because almost a year ago today, I "settled" for a young man almost half my age thinking I would be more open minded & do something different that could maybe lead to something positive, friendship or relationship..it didn't matter. Only after building myself up from my last dead-end relationship,one of many, I felt like finally I was ready to be open minded & positive about getting to know this young man whom took a interest in me. This wasn't my first time being approached & usually I never allow anything past a hi and bye but for some strange reason he caught my attention during the process of introducing himself..(I guess the planets were aligned perfectly) anyhow, it was history from that point on----> & it took less than a year to figure out that I played myself by settling for even worst treatment than I experienced with my ex...smh So now after learning the disappointing "truth" of basically being used by this man who I thought had good intentions towards getting to know me, left me feeling so embarrassed, humiliated, without dignity, foolish and confused at why a person would be interested in depreciating my value? I really dunno but I do know this, there are men out there still using women for their own personal pleasure & disregarding them..then on to the next female. Although, I fault my naïvett about dating younger men during this era, I had no idea I would be treated with such disregard after being nothing short of showing kindness & geniune interest towards a man that took an interest in me. I'm still in a state of shock. Like really? Who does that? I guess when you choose to settle ladies, be prepared to be treated way less than you are worth & to him you maybe just that...worthless!! #LESSON LEARNED (don't play yourself) learn what a man's true intentions are & stay one step ahead of the game~

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