So I’m just getting off work after a long and stressful day behind the bar.  I’m super stoked to come home and start working on my start-up.  Like literally, just the thought of working on my business gives me the same jittery feeling that 2 red bulls and a diet pill would give me; or your classic 2 servings of Endorush.  Let’s just say I’m addicted to caffeine.  Don’t judge me, we all have our demons.  Anyway, after my drawer is counted and all good, I clock out and check my phone.  I get a text from a girlfriend of mine that states “Hey girl.  If you have a sec after work, can we meet down the road to have a drink and chat?  I really need to talk to someone.”  First thing I think is, oh for sure.  I’m always down to help motivate an equally strong female. She must be having a rough day.  So, I race down the road to meet her.  I enter the place; we order drinks, tea, food, and anything else that brings a woman comfort when ice cream and chocolate isn’t readily available.  My girlfriend (we’ll just call her Deborah, like Debbie Downer, haaaa) starts off with “I am just so emotional about everything right now.  I feel stuck.  I just want to sleep in my boyfriend’s room all day.  I have all these opportunities available to me but my feelings are telling me to just get these emotions out.” Yadda yadda yadda.  You know where this is going. 

Fast forward 4 ½ (NO JOKE) hours later.. “yeah and I want to do all of this.. But I just don’t ‘feel’ like it right now…” Yadda yadda yadda. 

OKAY.  Two lessons here.

LESSON #1:  LADIES, LADIES, LADIES… 4 ½ hour conversation? To moan and groan?  Do you know how many of us do this on a weekly, even daily basis?  There’s something I had to learn in the modeling and acting world:  Every opportunity that was put in front of me was not always an opportunity that was going to follow through.. So I had to learn how to shut my mouth and not talk so much about everything that’s going on etc. etc.  That includes complaining.  There’s a rule I learned from Anthony Robbins.  Any time I have a problem (welcome to life:  there will always be problems) I spend five minutes (that’s right, only five minutes) complaining about it and then I move forward into problem-solving mode.  THIS IS CRUCIAL, MY FEMALES.  Please understand that time=$$$$$$$$$, moolah, paper, bucks, cash, you get the picture.  The more TIME you spend on complaining, the more CASH you are losing.  Remember, ideas are money.  The right thoughts= money.  Thoughts cause action.  Thought create your future.  What are you currently thinking about? 

So, just remember… No more clacking like birds, because then all you’ll get thrown at you is crumbs.

LESSON #2: I’m not going to waste my time going into what all her miniscule problems were, I’m just going to talk quickly about how to handle it.  Look, we all have problems.  Big and small.  One thing I learned from Donald Trump is that in order to become successful, you must be able to problem solve.  The problem with “Deborah” is that she sees herself stuck in the mud, unable to move.  How many of us girls love to carry the world on our shoulders?  MOST OF US.  This is what you need to learn:  No matter how big the problem is, there is always a solution.  But even if you find the solution after the four hour long conversation, the solution still requires action. Action is not talking.  Action is not complaining.  Action has to do with the decision to cut everything out that does not aid to what you commit to.  In order to get in this state, you must put yourself in it.  REMEMBER:  a decision is not a preference.  It is not a "try and we will see."  In fact, not only must you be in this state, but you must work at conditioning yourself.  It takes 30 days to break a habit (or start a good one).  

So when are you going to do your friends a favor, shut your mouth, and actually commit to the success you deserve? #foodforthought