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A few days ago I was reading an article where Nicki Minaj said she felt like she wasn't appreciated by fellow female MC's. Then I thought back to Mixtape Nicki and one verse stuck in my head. "Women are like crabs in a bucket you see a bad chick getting shine you should love it, cause when a door opens for me that means you just got a better opputunity to do you."
Then I thought back to conversations I've had with other women in the same field as myself. When our male counterparts advance we are extremly proud of them and naturally happy for them. But when a female advances shade is automatically thrown at her. Then there's the who did she sleep with to get ahead, why was she even considered for that promotion, or that promotion should have been mine. Then I realized there are two types of women in this world.
There's a type of woman who loves to see other women shine, especially if she's in the same field. She knows that acceptance of her colleague makes it easier for others coming behind her, and she looks at the woman making moves she hasn't yet as a woman who opens doors. She also looks at that woman’s successful moves and finds ways to adapt them so she can also reach the same heights and even go beyond.
Then there's another type of woman, who feels upset over another woman getting what she doesn’t yet have. This is the type of woman who sees every other woman with potential as getting in her lane and threatening what she’s accomplished.
Thinking back to when I was the woman who was struggling to be advanced on to the woman who is now calling the shots, I can recall the way that I was shaded. There were women who were far ahead of me in my career, I'd often look to these women for mentorship but it never happened it was almost like I got mine you need to get yours. In fact, they seemed to go our of their way to make things harder for me. I know they weren’t obligated to help me, but I wondered how much stronger women’s numbers could be at the top if they let go of thinking of themselves and we all worked together. I once read an article and it said “Men see other talented men and see collaborators.” “Women see competition. And it’s killing them.”
So I ask you ladies do you see your sister as your keeper or your competitor?