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Comment by Author J. Gail on December 28, 2012 at 12:06am

Now in these days men (not all) but many want you to take care of them, and are too busy trying to have more than what they can physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially handle. So you really can't balme us for being this way. I think you should talk to some brothers about stepping up their worth.

@ Teresa Cannon I so agree with your statement. Men of today need to give women something to respect if they want to be respected. Also I'm annoyed when single men who have not been able to make an honest woman out of someone themselves dole out relationship advice to women! Figure it out for yourself first before you try to tell someone else what is wrong with them!

Comment by Princess J Campbell on September 24, 2012 at 2:36pm

I actually agree with Tyrese. On so many different levels. 

It makes me think of Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man". In his book he explains to us about the man's internal need to provide and support his family. If we do not allow a man to do those things for us, he doesn't feel like much of a man and can't envision himself in a life long partnership with us. He informs us that the "gold digger" term was created to throw us off and let men "play on player" as the expression says. 

When I think of it in a biblical sense, a man's responsibility is to tend to the land while the women bear children. It sounds so old fashion, yet internally this is truly how we respond to each other in terms of relationships. As women, we want a man to at least be able to support us financially 100%, even if we are willing to meet them 50/50. And as men, they desire home cooked meals, a clean house, clean underwear, lol, and of course (when they're ready) give them kids. 

I agree with Tyrese 100%. As an independent woman, I come home to that dog, who loves me unconditionally. =-) Brings me joy, protects the home and keeps me company. But honestly, having that dog is not enough to provide long lasting love that fulfills the needs of a woman, emotionally. I believe men respect a woman who can take care of herself, but they are more drawn to be with a woman who needs them juuuuuuust a little bit when it comes to money. 

My father often shares with me how sad he is that I'm "all grown up". At first, I couldn't understand why? How could your pride in my accomplishments be shared with a sense of sadness. He would tell me, "You're all grown up. You're doing your own thing, you never call me for money or to bail you out of binds, you just don't need me anymore and that kind of makes me sad." Understanding the internal makings of a man, it makes perfect sense to me now. =-) In college I would call him for money quite often; and even in my adult life, I would need him sporadically for emergencies. Yet, now that I'm 100% independent, I haven't called him for money in years. So just to boost his ego sometimes I ask for financial advice, instead of money.This seems to compensate for no more daddy's little girl holding her hand out and saying pleasssssssse when I needed money. 

Comment by Rochelle Payne on September 24, 2012 at 7:09am

I love what he keeps saying "give a REAL man a chance" but Tyrese baby i'm a fan but luv I think you need to do a servery on the ratio of real men to bums out here in the world to this given day for every 1 real man there's probably 200 bums out here {literally a needle in a hay stack}..they aren't even considered men because men hold there own an bums always want a woman to mind them like your their mama so they are boys and for a Real woman that ish is annoying to deal with in a relationship far-less in society.

Comment by Olivia Childs on September 24, 2012 at 6:46am

I agree in the aspect that there are some men who don't like independent women.  However, there are a lot of intelligent, ambitious men who can appreciate a partner who can hold her own. In essence, it really depends on what the man and woman wants.  I know that this had to be a generalization, but when communicating on such a worldwide level, you have to be very succinct in your speech.  Also, remember this is an opinion and Tyrese does not speak for all men!

Comment by Fiona Pryce on September 23, 2012 at 9:21pm

Totally agree and no matter what, i love me some Tyrese.

Comment by Shavahn D on September 23, 2012 at 7:12pm

i agree with him... fully ! ut some guys are scared of independent women too... so it goes both ways

Comment by Teresa Cannon on September 23, 2012 at 6:45pm

Tyrese I think you're correct to a certain extent. I'm an independent woman, widowed for nine years. So I know what it's like to have a great man that is secure with having this type of woman. Now in these days men (not all) but many want you to take care of them, and are too busy trying to have more than what they can physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially handle. So you really can't balme us for being this way. I think you should talk to some brothers about stepping up their worth. I want and love to have a brother whose not afraid of a woman who can handle her own, at the same time know that he is wanted for more than money and sex. Try this on be mentally and spiritually capable of handling a real woman. That means being able to hold an inteligent conversation, do something for the woman. Show her that she needs a strong loving caring and compasionate man by her side. Don't back down when it looks hard. Just like you say women too independent, men too fragile they can't handle the truth when it come to relationship. Help us not to be so independent, give us something to submit to.....!!

Comment by Sasha Norman on September 23, 2012 at 6:20pm

Disagree 100% another man who thinks he knows it all. My boyfriends have loved me for that alone I am my own person, take care of myself, what man wants a woman he has to father? And I mean in any way not just financially. Has he any proof to this 'theory'? being independent doesnt mean lonely in any stretch of the imagination.